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My Story

My Passion is family and spreading the message of peace, reconciliation and living authentically!

I’ve always believed that family comes first. I am the proud mama of 6 grown children: 4 daughters and two sons. I am also blessed with 4 grandsons that I’m over the moon about. Oh! and I forgot my grand fur babies: Mia, Mellie, Zelda, Gonzo and Piper. They are all my loves!

I am about to openly share my messy story with you, because I want you to know, that a jagged and imperfect path can someday lead to an amazing career that you love. Not all success is achieved in a straight, predictable path. Your purpose eventually finds you!

Yep, here I am, in 1956. Check out the car, and the saddle shoes!

I’m a 1950’s child of Italian and Hungarian descent, born in Upstate N.Y., the 2nd of 5 children … life was sweet and simple.

My family moved out of state fairly often, so I missed the security and comfort of growing roots in a community.

I remember an impressionable incident when I was 10 yrs. old. We were on a family vacation with all five siblings packed into the station wagon. Along the way, Dad stopped for gas, some of us got out to use the restroom; but when I came out, I saw our family car heading back onto the expressway, without me. It was a moment of fear, as I stood there with the gas station attendant who turned around to say to me: “I guess your family forgot you.” Yeah, it was kinda creepy even back then when you didn’t think of being abducted.

I have to add that I have wonderful parents, and they of course realized this “oversight” by the next exit, when Dad was counting heads! As an easy going child, I often felt invisible. This was a subconscious belief that I carried into my adult life. I share this, to give you an example of the minor events that can lay down the foundation for subconscious beliefs that aren’t true.

I can remember wanting to get married, be in love forever, live up in the mountains and raise 10 kids together!

I thought I was in love at 19 and moved to Long Island, N.Y. to begin my independent “adult” life. We eventually married, but walking down the isle, I felt that I was making a terrible mistake. I should have listened to that small, quiet voice. It ended in divorce, a year later with no children.

Lesson: Listen to Your Gut and Don’t Ignore Red Flags!

The second marriage lasted 25 years, and we were blessed with six children. However, the marriage was difficult. When times were good, they were VERY GOOD, but when times were bad….they were VERY BAD! Such marriages are emotionally confusing and difficult to leave.

Our life was an emotional roller coaster filled with lots of fun, but equally filled with trust issues, betrayal, alcoholism, resentments, unforgiveness, and regrets.

Looking back, rather than acknowledging the obvious issues, it was easier to ignore them and pretend they didn’t exist. We all know how that story ends.

Fifteen years went by, suddenly I’m in my mid-forties, depressed and wondering what the heck happened to the happy life I once imagined?

Lesson: Don’t accept unhappiness or ignore problems, acknowledge them and seek counsel if you need to.

I felt powerless and invisible in the marriage. I felt I had no “voice” and failed to stand up for myself or others. I was the “nice” girl who didn’t want to make waves or confront anyone. I was talked over, and lied to all the time. My belief was that my feelings or opinions didn’t matter. Yikes!

Lesson: Chronic Unmanaged Stress Sets the Stage for Illness

As a result of holding in all that emotional stress, my physical health declined. I was experiencing: widespread body pain (fibromyalgia), Type 2 diabetes (what? me?) osteo-arthritis, degenerative disc disease, disordered eating, depression, extreme fatigue, and 2 rounds of adrenal burn-out from excessive stress and long work outs in the gym.

Lesson: Vibrant Health is more than just diet and exercise! Self Worth, inner peace and balance were missing from my life.

With a demanding personal and business life and a family of six children to raise; there wasn’t time for me to figure this out, which was a big mistake. It’s important to make the time to figure it out!

Widowed, broke, five children still living at home, and no insurance! What now?

I wasn’t prepared for how difficult things were going to get! The marriage was hanging on by a thread, when my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer and 2 months to live. Five of our six children were still living at home, the youngest was just 9 years old.

After processing that shocking news, I later discovered our life and cancer care insurance policies had been cancelled. There are no words to describe the panic I felt and the emotions that ran through me at that moment when I realized that the kids and I were in for a rough time.

There were so many kind and generous people who came to our side! We got through each challenge by the grace of God, and the loving support and help from family, friends and even co-workers.

After several years of counseling, I learned how to forgive and eventually how to heal the emotions, events and beliefs that disabled me most of my adult life. At age 53, I met Lee, who would become my partner and companion for the next 15 years.
Lee and I in the earlier days of our relationship

I resolved my physical conditions without prescriptions or medical intervention. I am no longer considered Type 2, since my sugar has been stable now for over 20 years. My health care consists of: Movement (Walking and Yoga), Meditation, Nutrition, Vitamin and herb Supplements, finding pleasure, connecting regularly with friends and family, accepting life daily, and consistent prayer.

I understand hurt, betrayal, financial destruction, limiting beliefs, depression, feeling “not good enough” and less than.

Truly you can make anything become possible, and change the direction of your life.

The last 40 years of my journey is what shaped me into the person I am today. These experiences are what gave me the motivation to find my voice, become a leader, start my own coaching business and start a movement: “The Ageless Woman Movement”. I love supporting and inspiring women of all ages to find their unique voice and empower them through compassionate coaching.

Qualifications: I went after my life-long dream career in health and wellness, earning the following certifications: Certified Integrative Nutrition Health Coach, Certified Yoga Instructor with additional training in the neuroscience of yoga and slow movement, and Certified MAP Practitioner.

I love: Family gatherings, Slow Mindful Yoga, Coffee shop meet ups, Cozy cafes with friends, Creating, Painting, Meditation, Long walks, Movies with a touch of Romance, the food show “Chopped”, TV re-runs like Seinfeld, and a glass of wine at the end of some days!

Create peace from the inside out, it’s not about “age”

it’s about “life”

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Jodi harris
Jodi harris
9 months ago

Wow!this woman is driving the get away car 2 all of life’s challenges..live in the problem.or find a solution.when the pain gets great enough,we will seek change.she offers practical heart felt spiritual guidance.also nutrition tips,w slow mindful yoga practice.it all works together for the good.🙏she keeps what she has,by giving it away.serving others is her gift.