25 years of chronic stress, oppression, emotional turbulence, overwhelm, despair, depression and chronic fatigue lead to me decades of inflammation.
Now, I’m here to be a guiding light to other women experiencing some of these same things, and carefully coaching you through the stress and overwhelm that is robbing you of your youthful happiness and health!
The best part of my life all along was becoming a mother! I am the proud mama of 6 adult children, 4 beautiful grandsons, 11 grand furbabies and my dog Louie, whom Lee and I adopted in November 2021! They are all my loves!
My story is messy, but I want you to know, that a jagged and imperfect path will someday lead to an amazing life that you love. Let me assure you, that not all success or happiness is achieved in a straight, predictable path. Your purpose eventually finds you!
I was barely out of my teens when I moved to Long Island, N.Y. because I was “in love”, what was I thinking? We eventually married, but walking down the isle, I sensed that I was making a mistake. Yet, I didn’t have whatever it took to stop this mistake. It ended in divorce, a year later with no children.
Did you ever ignore that still small voice within, your “gut” feeling?
I continued to ignore my intuition. The second husband was the polar opposite of the first partner, and I flew head on into a marriage that lasted 25 years, but was very turbulent. We had six wonderful kids together, but our life was a series of extreme highs and lows. I suspect it was the highs that kept me in the marriage.
Looking back, it took less physical and emotional energy to ignore the conflicts and behavior, than to confront the truth. However, the truth is…..that negative energy goes somewhere within you, leading to exhaustion and health problems. Full disclosure: I wanted to run and hide from the issues that never seemed to have a solution. Can anyone relate to any of these feelings?
Fifteen years passed, now I’m in my mid-forties, depressed and wondering what happened to the happy life I once imagined?
All that time, my body had been keeping the score! As a result of years of psychological stress, my physical health declined, and I was experiencing widespread inflammation:
- Type 2 Diabetes
- Degenerative Disc Disease
- Disordered Eating
- Extreme Fatigue
- Adrenal Burn-Out (twice) from excessive stress and long work outs in the gym
- Falling asleep at the wheel
- No energy to walk up the stairs
- Extreme forgetfulness
- Aches and pains all over
The struggle to keep a family business, marriage and a household together was real. This Mama Bear thought she could do it all, but she burned out taking care of everyone, but herself!
This is how I was feeling and what I believed about myself at that time:
- Small, like I didn’t matter
- No Voice to stand up for myself or others
- Low Self Worth
- No Self Esteem
- Fearful of change and the unknown
- Am I the one that’s crazy
If you feel any of the above mentioned things, I “get you”!
It took time, patience and diligence to find answers, but I eventually got better on my own without meds.
I started by making simple changes to get my health on track. Dietary change for me was getting rid of sugar and slashing my carb intake. So, good bye endless plates of pasta and pizza and hello to more veggies!
I also changed the way I exercised by being kinder to my body that was working to heal. My health was improving, but I was still miserable on the “inside” because, the major work in front of me was knowing what to do with years of bottled up anger, humiliation, frustration, and hurt.
Personal Growth (some would call this counseling) was the final step for me to take to take my health back, my power back, and be where I wanted to be.
So, there I was at 52: Healthier and happier than in my 40’s, even though we lost our home, and were in financial ruin.
My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer with 2 months to live. Five of our six children were still living at home, the youngest was just 9 years old. I was widowed at 53, and decided it was time for me to get my Sh__t together!
Beyond diet and exercise, there is so much more that you need for a happy, well balanced life:
- Get a Professional evaluation for both mental and physical health
- Acknowledge and don’t hide beneath fear
- Get out and get fresh air
- Gentle Movement which has proven benefits for the parasympathetic nervous system like Yoga, Tai-Chi
- Meditation which also has scientifically proven benefits both physically and emotionally
- Creating a toolbox for managing stress
- 7-8 hours of uninterrupted sleep
Stand up for yourself, because you matter! Don’t let anyone make you believe otherwise.
With a demanding family and business life and six children to raise; I didn’t believe there was time for me.
It’s important to set aside time for yourself and figure it out!
Favorite messages of all: All things will work together for the good, With faith all things are possible and if you have faith as small as a mustard seed you can say to that mountain….MOVE
At age 54, I met Lee, who would become my partner and companion for the next 15 years. At 55, I learned how to forgive and eventually how to heal the emotions, memories and beliefs that disabled me most of my adult life.
I can now say with assurance, that my BODY|MIND|SPIRIT are all working together in harmony.
I understand those that have experienced:
- Emotional pain
- Betrayal by both women and men
- Financial destruction
- Limiting beliefs
- Feeling “not good enough”
- Not having a voice
- Feeling that your body has failed you
Truly you can make anything become possible, and change the direction of your life at any age!
I felt the time was right, and at 58 I went back to school to earn my credentials in the Health & Wellness field. I’ll be turning 70 this year, and proud to say that I have completed three Certification Programs, and working on my fourth:
- Certified Integrative Nutrition Health Coach
- Certified Yoga Teacher with additional training in the Neuroscience of Yoga
- Certified MAP Practitioner which partners with the Subconscious mind for positive change
- Currently working on my fourth one to become a Certified Brain Health Coach Professional.
I LOVE: Visiting with family and friends, coffee shop meet ups, cozy cafes, Creating, Painting, Meditation, Long walks, Movies with a touch of Romance, the food show “Chopped”, TV re-runs and hanging out with Lee at our local bar and restaurant.
Inner Peace is Priceless and Ageless