A midlife “crisis” isn’t always about the anxiety brought about by aging and recapturing a perceived loss of youth and charm – that might be a social construct! We’ve all heard stories about the “mature” guy who spontaneously purchases a fancy sports car or a long desired motorcycle and then starts forming “casual” relationships with much younger women. However, many times this mid-life thing, is triggered by a major event: a marriage ending, job loss, the death or loss of a loved one, empty nest, or relocation.
This period of time is often accompanied with deep reflection.
I want to start by saying that I am not against medication. I have seen many who have benefitted from the traditional approach where medication is often prescribed. That said, I do support looking at all the possibilities for finding and treating the root cause of such issues as a first choice, or at least as a companion to traditional therapy.
Here are the statistics that motivated me to take this subject on and create a Signature Program to address it in fullness:
- 1 in 10 Americans take antidepressants for depression.
- 25 percent of women in their 40s and 50s take antidepressant medication, which is a greater percentage than any other group.
- According to a study several years ago published in the Psychotherapy and Psychosomatics Journal, almost two-thirds of the 5,000 patients sampled were diagnosed as clinically depressed, yet they did not meet the Diagnostic & Statistical Manual of Mental Disorder criteria.
Let’s Describe how a “mid-life crisis” might feel:
- Unexpected emotional melt downs
- Life feels boring….dull… Meh
- Life is overwhelming
- Life is catching up to you
- Old “stuff” that was never resolved, is rising to the surface
- Regrets are prominent
- New anxieties are popping up
- Questioning what life might have been like if you made different choices
- Wearing many masks to hide your truths, and you don’t want to keep lying to yourself
- You may also be a work alcoholic as a way of avoiding emotional discomfort
- Your moods are unpredictable
- Loss of identity, asking the question “Who am I?”
- You are falling into a funk – or worse….. depression.
What are the signs that a “funk” is turning more into depression:
- Your eating habits are way off
- Loss of appetite
- Difficulty falling to sleep and dealing with extreme fatigue
- Chronic feelings of pessimism or hopelessness
- Restlessness, anxiety or irritability
- Feelings of guilt, helplessness or worthlessness
- Low libido
- Withdrawing and loss of interest in activities you once loved
- Thoughts of, or attempts at suicide (please get professional help immediately if this is the case for you)
- Physical aches or pains ( headaches, tummy aches, etc.) that don’t respond to treatment
Let’s take another look at this subject
WHAT IF…. we referred to the event we’ve been calling a “Mid-Life Crisis” as a MIDLIFE TRANSITION?!
WHAT IF…. this painful period, is actually a HUGE opportunity to awaken, heal, transform and GROW?
WHAT IF…. you thought of this as not having lost your identity, but having the opportunity to create a whole new one.
WHAT IF…. this shift of mindset, could create a whole new field of possibilities!
This is a purposeful time when adults often reevaluate their lives, their goals, their purpose/career – its a time to rediscover dreams and grow to new heights.
Is the Mid-Life Transition Signature Coaching Program for You?
If your answer is I think so, but I have questions, then please arrange a FREE, No Obligation call or Zoom Session with me to see if this is a good fit for you. Contact me through email: firstname.lastname@example.org
My life experiences, certifications, trainings and heart centered intuitive coaching have made it possible for me to address such things.
I would be honored to lead you on this journey of self discovery and transition.